{"id":4581,"date":"2019-02-01T10:58:47","date_gmt":"2019-02-01T10:58:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/trustedcoachdirectory.com\/?p=4581"},"modified":"2022-02-17T11:18:39","modified_gmt":"2022-02-17T11:18:39","slug":"never-give-up-on-your-dreams","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/trustedcoachdirectory.com\/never-give-up-on-your-dreams\/","title":{"rendered":"Never give up on your dreams…"},"content":{"rendered":"

I went swimming on Monday, as I do every morning, and noticed that there were only 3 people in the pool, as opposed to 10 last week. \u201cBlue Monday\u201d\u00a0 as we all know is supposed to be the day that most people give up their New Year\u2019s Resolutions, if they even got round to making them.<\/p>\n

As we enter February, this ‘dropping off’ of resolve continues apace. At this rate I will have the pool to myself!<\/p>\n

It got me thinking about something that happened to me on New Year\u2019s day.\u00a0 When, in a very unscientific experiment, I asked a group of my friends what their resolutions were. There was an awkward silence. You know the ones where everyone starts looking at their feet, or in this case, at the next mince pie. I waited a couple of minutes and asked again and then one of them said;<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t make New Year\u2019s Resolutions, because it\u2019s like admitting your guilty secrets, that you are overweight, or drink too much, or are obsessed with Chocolate\u201d.\u00a0 (She didn\u2019t say this last one, I added it, as its one of mine).<\/p>\n

I was really surprised, so I asked if that\u2019s what everyone else was thinking and sure enough, they had all been thinking the same thing.<\/p>\n

So I suggested a few things, which I use in my coaching to help people to focus on what they really want and get there.<\/p>\n

(1)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Start with the right phrase. <\/strong>\u00a0\u201cI want to START\u2026 being a better manager\/lover\/fighter\/more strategic\u201d, it helps us to think about ourselves in a positive light. It also means that when we flounder, we can always get back to starting again. Progress on the goal or New Years\u2019 Resolution is always possible to regain because we promised we would \u2018start\u2019 not stop.<\/p>\n

(2)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Believe in yourself.<\/strong>\u00a0 A very clever Psychologist called Bandura coined the phrase \u2018Self Efficacy\u2019, which is a fancy name for self-belief. It has been shown repeatedly that self-belief can make the difference between success and failure, almost regardless of capability. Building self-belief, by breaking down goals into achievable steps removes barriers and creates a pathway to succeed. It\u2019s easier to start small and work up from there.<\/p>\n

(3)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Go with the flow<\/strong>. We all know the \u2018fight vs flight\u2019 response to anxiety. But the lesser known \u2018freeze\u2019 is something I see a lot in my coaching practice. People feel overwhelmed and stuck. They don\u2019t know how to \u2018unstick themselves\u2019, which means that they miss out on promotion, moving jobs, travelling abroad. Using simple tools and exercises such as Motivational Maps \u00a9 can help them \u2018go with the flow\u2019 and this makes progress fun, so more likely to work.<\/p>\n

By now we had finished the mince pies and my friends were pulling on their boots to go for a walk. As we trudged around the field, each of them took time to share what they had decided to focus on in 2019, and I shared my chocolate, somewhat begrudgingly\u2026<\/p>\n

Have you kept your New Year’s Resolutions?<\/p>\n

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Leadership and Team Coach Kate O\u2019Loughlin<\/a> has experience working with Senior Leaders to help them to transform their organisation. She has a strong track record of working in both the private and public sectors, coaching both individuals and teams.<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Read more blogs on Personal Growth – Using the Wheel of Life to look at Where you are Currently and Where You Would Like to Be<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

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