{"id":11432,"date":"2022-12-05T10:33:41","date_gmt":"2022-12-05T10:33:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/trustedcoachdirectory.com\/?p=11432"},"modified":"2023-01-24T10:05:02","modified_gmt":"2023-01-24T10:05:02","slug":"how-to-challenge-what-i-believe-about-myself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/trustedcoachdirectory.com\/how-to-challenge-what-i-believe-about-myself\/","title":{"rendered":"How to challenge what I believe about myself"},"content":{"rendered":"

By\u00a0Roy Childs PhD.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

This blog is describing a powerful way to help people learn about themselves through feedback.<\/p>\n

We know that feedback from others is one of the main ways that we learn about ourselves. It is like a mirror that can help to dispel some of our myths and blind spots \u2013 as long as we don\u2019t become defensive.\u00a0 So how do self-report questionnaires contribute to this process since we are only answering what we believe about ourselves? Self-report questionnaires can provide insight because, by asking lots of questions, various themes and consistencies can be pulled together. These consistencies are not always obvious in the \u2018confetti\u2019 of our everyday lives.\u00a0 However, ultimately, we are still only dealing with what people believe about themselves. In this blog I would like to suggest using psychometrics to significantly enhance the feedback process.<\/p>\n

I start by acknowledging that, to help a coachee to gain insight, it is important to start from where they are at. We capture this through our conversations. We can add in some psychometrics to help articulate their beliefs about themselves.<\/p>\n

This allows us to compare different forms of self-report. This is analogous to looking at a sculpture from different angles \u2013 each adds an additional perspective. This enables differences to be challenged which can contribute to increasing self-awareness \u2013 but we must recognise that this is still self-report which reflects a person\u2019s beliefs including levels of bias and even delusions!<\/p>\n

Most coaches will be familiar with the Johari Window which is used to understand the process of building self-awareness by reminding us that everyone has blind spots as illustrated here:<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n
<\/td>\nKnown to self<\/strong><\/td>\nUnknown to self<\/strong><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
Known to others<\/strong><\/td>\nPublic Arena<\/strong><\/p>\n

What I know about myself and so do others<\/em><\/td>\n

Blind Spot<\/strong><\/p>\n

What I don\u2019t know about myself but others do<\/em><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n

Unknown to others<\/strong><\/td>\nPrivate Curtain<\/strong><\/p>\n

What I know about myself but others don\u2019t<\/em><\/td>\n

Undiscovered Depths<\/strong><\/p>\n

What I don\u2019t know about myself and neither do others<\/em><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n

To increase self-awareness we need to decrease the Blind Spot.<\/strong> Decreasing the Blind Spot is facilitated by feedback from others. Coaches may well encourage their coachee to solicit feedback directly \u2013 suggesting that they go and ask other people. There are advantages to this direct approach. However, direct, face-to-face feedback can involve a range of emotions which result in varying levels of honesty. It can also be unstructured \u2013 the person giving feedback may emphasise things important to them rather than the person seeking feedback.<\/p>\n

The Paired Process<\/strong> is an alternative. It involves the coachee asking a carefully chosen \u2018other\u2019 for feedback \u2013 but this time by completing the same questionnaire as the coachee. This \u2018other\u2019 answers with their perception of the coachee. Because the result is scored using the same themes\/scales, any differences are immediately highlighted. This structured form of feedback can be used with all kinds of questionnaires \u2013 personality, values, interests, emotional intelligence etc.<\/p>\n

Such feedback is especially important for questionnaires that suggest that they measure self-awareness \u2013 as is the case with all the Emotional Intelligence (EI) questionnaires. This is because everyone is above average on self-awareness \u2013 at least from their own perspective. Why \u2013 because none of us are aware of what we are not aware of! All EI questionnaires would be far more useful if they were available as a paired process. Not only is this an opportunity to check the individual\u2019s self-perception but it also increases that individual\u2019s engagement in the process. This is especially true if care is taken in choosing the \u2018other\u2019 for that feedback. Consider completing a questionnaire about your own espoused values \u2013 and seeing if these are recognised by someone you have specifically chosen because you value their opinion. The same goes for the way you see your personality. A good coach will help the coachee to choose the \u2018other\u2019 and my experience is that the process is both more personal and intimate than what is often called 360-feedback (i.e. from multiple \u2018others\u2019 which is then grouped, averaged and anonymous). This creates a better context for reflecting on the feedback as part of a self-development process.<\/p>\n

Some questionnaires that offer this option available from Team Focus are:<\/strong><\/p>\n

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  1. The EIQ (Emotional Intelligence Questionnaire) which covers Personal Intelligence, Relational Intelligence and Situational Intelligence.<\/li>\n
  2. The VbIM \u2013 the Values-based Indicator of Motivation which covers 24 fundamental values.<\/li>\n
  3. The TDI (Type Dynamics Indicator) which identifies your personality type as part of a dynamic system of personality, roles and situational demands known as the Type Mapping system.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    And so why did I use the picture at the beginning of this blog? It is because the coaching context brings more perspectives into the room. Although I am sitting there just with my coachee, it is like having a third person (the questionnaire) or a fourth person (the selected \u2018other\u2019) contributing to the self-awareness process.<\/p>\n

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    Roy Childs,<\/a> Managing Director of\u00a0Team Focus<\/a>, is an Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and, like many other senior staff members, a Chartered Occupational Psychologist.\u00a0 His background in psychometrics includes having worked with some of the best-known authors of personality questionnaires including Ray Cattell (16PF) and Will Schutz (FIRO). With Team Focus he has developed a new range of instruments designed to bring psychometrics into the 21st century.\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

    Roy runs the widest range of BPS recognised qualifying courses in the UK and his publications include \u201cthe Psychometric Minefield\u201d; \u201cEmotional Intelligence and Leadership\u201d; \u201cThe Big Five \u2013 Bring a little colour into your lives\u201d; \u201cCoaching with FIRO Element B\u201d published in the book \u201cPsychometrics in Coaching\u201d, \u2018Action Learning Supervision\u2019 published in the book \u201cCoaching Supervision\u201d and \u2018The Relational lens\u2019 published by Cambridge University Press.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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    Read more blogs<\/a> from Roy Childs<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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